"Everyone's a let down, It just depends on how far down they can go."

Earlier in the week, a friend had asked me to go to some stores with her today. I knew she had a quick appointment at 1030, so I waited to hear from her. 1130 comes and I still had not heard from her. I assumed she'd be done, so I sent her a text. No response. So I sent her another message around 45 min later, telling her I assumed we weren't getting together then. At that time she told me she had went to the craft store with her mom already and was making candles.

So I decided i had enough, and my boyfriend is always telling me to tell people how I feel. So I asked her why she couldn't have told me that before instead of leaving me hanging. She told me she assumed I was sleeping, and she just got back from the store 10 min ago. I never sleep late, and she knows this. I had in fact been up since 8am. I told her this, and how just because I was with my boyfriend didn't mean I didn't want to hang out. That I was not in fact like her (I do see my boyfriend a lot, but he also joins in group hangs. I have no problem not seeing him to hang out with friends). But she should have fun making her candles. She responds to me, "You don't have to be a bitch". 

So i'm the bitch because I was upset that she decided to go without me and failed to clue me in. In today's society in order to make ones self feel better about being a shitty person, you make the other person feel like they were in the wrong. Make someone who you consider a friend feel like shit because they were upset you did something kind of crappy. No one seems to want to take responsibility, or admit they fucked up. I'm not upset that I wasn't going to hang out with her, I'm mad about the way she went about it. It seems all too common these days.

She then went on to send me this long rant about how its only 12pm and she figured I was sleeping (At this point it was just about 1pm). How she never said she wasn't going to hang out, she would have text me when she was done. That I needed to take a "chill pill". Now I did not get nasty with her, curse at her, or call her names. Just expressed my feelings regarding the way she went about things. I told her I was not trying to be a bitch, but she did not make it sound like she had any plans on still hanging out. Needless to say I haven't heard from her since.

Is this the new norm?
Is it now socially acceptable to make others feel like shit for something you did?
Make plans with someone, and let them know plans have changed only after being asked about it?
Am I just more considerate then everyone else I know?
Ever feel like your so good to friends and they never give you the same respect in return?
Ever feel like maybe there's something wrong with you?
Us 20-somethings are glued to our phones regardless. Even the busiest people have time for a 2 second text! I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions on this. Please share with me!

Hope everyone's Thursday was better then mine!

Kristen

"If you lie you don't deserve to have friends
If you lie you don't deserve to have them
If you lie you don't deserve to have friends
If you lie
Everybody is a let down
It just depends on how far down they can go"- Cute Is What We Aim For- "Newport Living"

Don't Be That Friend

Anyone have that one friend who always has the lamest excuses on why they blew you off?! Well that's just about all of my friends. Over the years, I have heard some of the dumbest shit come from people that call themselves my friends.

The other night my cousin and fellow blogger told me I should start a blog. I thought about it and decided nah, I had nothing of value to share. Just then my phone lights up with a text message. Another lame excuse from a friend. Then it hit me, I could blog about exactly that. So I gathered my thoughts, picked a name and joined Blogger.

So back to that text message. I woke up on Sunday morning to a text message from a friend about her dog. I responded about how I was sure the dog was fine. At that time I sent a second text letting her know I had a coupon for Moe's and asked her to grab dinner with me. Knowing she was at work, I didn't expect a response until she was on break later in the day. 4:30pm rolls around and I was just telling my boyfriend that I still had not heard from her. I went on Facebook and saw she had posted on Facebook about a half hour earlier. I'm not sure about any of you readers, but when someone blatantly ignores you like that you assume it means no. So, instead I got dinner with my boyfriend. Hours went by and my friend had been out of work for a few hours, but yet I still had not heard from her. So I decided to call her out. I sent the text "Thanks for the response". A few minutes later I receive, "I didn't see it till now. I prob hit it on accident at work and didn't know."

Anybody with any grasp of technology knows this sounds like the dumbest response ever. To "accidentally" open up a text message without realizing it, is nearly impossible.

List of things you would need to do in order to open a text without realizing:
1- When you turn on your lock screen, ignore all of the alerts (or maybe just all the message alerts).
2- Completely miss that little red circle that says 1/2/3 etc.
3- Never open your messages (lets get real no girl doesn't open their texts the minute they can)
4- Somehow miss all these signs that you had a text but still manage to go through all these steps and not even realize.


I would much rather hear "no", then to be ignored. Don't be THAT friend, readers. Do you want to be ignored? Probably not. Its very hurtful and aggravating to be ignored for no good reason. Do you guys have a friend like this? Have a similar situation happen to you? Please feel free to share your stories with me!

Thanks for reading!
Kristen :)

Welcome!!

I'm Kristen and this is my blog.  Over the years my so called friends have said some ridiculous things to me. I'd like to share these things with you, and the blogosphere!